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End of life....

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My wife's mom is 95 years old. All her life she was sharp as a tack. She now suffers from partial dementia and just wants to go in peace.
She fell and broke her hip, the poor woman. They are considering an operation.
Same thing happened late in life to her husband of 69 years, he also suffered a lot.
Why??? When our beloved pets are suffering we help them pass, merciful.
My mother died in my arms gasping for breath a horrible death from cancer and treatments
Too bad the circle can't be completed without so much suffering...
Life sure is amazing......
 
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#2
Oh, man... My grandfather passed after having surgery when he broke his hip. I cannot imagine how painful that must be, so they can't just let her live like that. But, at her age, it's extremely stressful on the body.

Prayers for all.
 
#3
We as a humans can't not start dictating death or helping it along , goes against moral value's and would be abused - she lived a 97 yr life that is something to be said in itself , i hope she goes peacefully in here sleep but i believe we deem that God's decision not mans ..... she will be in my prayers .....

blessings SoSer
 
#4
Hip breaks are the worst for old folks,
been having little falls myself.

You and your wife stay strong;
'bout all you can do is give love.
　
Seems something we're all destined for--
preparation maybe...
 
#5
^^ Me, too, geologic, and they're frightening as hell. I've always been able to bounce back up before!
 
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chickenman said:
My wife's mom is 97 years old. All her life she was sharp as a tack. She now suffers from partial dementia and just wants to go in peace.
She fell and broke her hip, the poor woman. They are considering an operation.
Same thing happened late in life to her husband of 69 years, he also suffered a lot.
Why??? When our beloved pets are suffering we help them pass, merciful.
My mother died in my arms gasping for breath a horrible death from cancer and treatments
Too bad the circle can't be completed without so much suffering...
Life sure is amazing......
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I am sorry, sir, to read of the suffering of one you love.

I to am sorry for the pain that all who know and love her must be feeling now.

Suffering is multiplied by the connections to one who suffers. But also, through all of life, the joy and love of one is multiplied by all who have shared in that life.

Ninety seven years of human experience...I know nothing of it's details and yet can find it both astounding and beautiful. The love and connections nurtured, despite and through sure adversity, are the measure of a life. Who better knows the measure than family and friends? Who better to decide it's end than the individual, advised by all who love and are loved?

The question of the time and nature of one's end, when an end can be conceived of and done, is not a social question. It is a private question, a family question, to be asked and answered in privacy, and dignity.

My heart goes out to you. My thoughts and my empathy, and my hope, are all I can offer. I wish there was more, as all good people wish there was more in such times.
 
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deepthought said:
I am sorry, sir, to read of the suffering of one you love.

I to am sorry for the pain that all who know and love her must be feeling now.

Suffering is multiplied by the connections to one who suffers. But also, through all of life, the joy and love of one is multiplied by all who have shared in that life.

Ninety seven years of human experience...I know nothing of it's details and yet can find it both astounding and beautiful. The love and connections nurtured, despite and through sure adversity, are the measure of a life. Who better knows the measure than family and friends? Who better to decide it's end than the individual, advised by all who love and are loved?

The question of the time and nature of one's end, when an end can be conceived of and done, is not a social question. It is a private question, a family question, to be asked and answered in privacy, and dignity.

My heart goes out to you. My thoughts and my empathy, and my hope, are all I can offer. I wish there was more, as all good people wish there was more in such times.
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Thanks very comforting...
 
#9
I had one grandmother break her leg in her early nineties, and the other hip in her late nineties. She was much less mobile after the hip, but she lived to be almost 105. That too was several years past her mind's ability to hold on...
 
#10
My parents both died three years ago within four months of each other, 93 and 88, married 68 years. They prayed to their Lord to take them to heaven. They were both in a lot of pain. It was truly a blessing when he took them..they wanted to go home
 
#11
wife is with her mom. Mom's not eating or drinking, fucking doctors, nurses. they gave he pain medication in Iv and she did not get it they flushed the line and said they could not give her more, wife threw a fit, they finally gave her more and she is sleeping...
Then they said it could be a month till the rehab. Funking A 1 month lieing in bed??????They will be nothing left to rehab.
They also are talking nursing home which is covered for 2 weeks then it's out of pocket.
she payed al her life for insurance and has medicare and this is how they treat her. what a shame.
I sure hope when its my time I drop in the river or chicken yard....
Her only words so far are... Lift me up....We all wish she would just go and be at peace....Tough times.....
 
#12
Wow. she's up and smiling a little and ate some food. Will be transferred to a long term nursing home along with rehab. on wed.
Boy us humans sure are amazing....Thanks all for your kindness....
 
#13
My God, that's amazing! Blessings.
 
#14
Up one day down the next... they are kicking her out of hospital, she's confused, really hard on wife and sister. sad...
 
#15
A good long term care facility will be much better for her, IMO and IME. Of course she's confused, she's gotta be on some good drugs after breaking her hip, plus, she's incredibly old. And yes, it's hard, but is it really any harder than raising a child? Our elderly deserve at least that much care. :)
 
#16
Hoping that when the time comes for me that it's legal to just take a pill and pass gracefully. Each as an individual has to determine when that is, but one thing is for sure...NOBODY IS GOING TO CHANGE MY DIAPER. When it comes to a point that I can no longer control my bowels that will be it for me. Would be comforting to know that I could somewhat plan to pass with my family around and go in peace. Between this day and that day I plan on causing all kinds of trouble in my winter years. Harvested 3 plants yesterday, will be fishing later this week and need to put the veggie garden to bed for the winter. St Peter don't you call me cause I can't go.....got to much shit to do.

Hoping things work out for you C-Man, sending good thoughts your way for your family.
 
#17
Amazing still with us but the end is near..
Not eating on pain meds, heart is giving out.
We have decided to let her pass, with wifes sister by her side, she is out of it so would not know we were there.
. plans are for funeral later this fall...
Strange how some just keep on living despite almost shutting down...
 
#18
My father passed this summer. He was diagnosed with a very aggressive and advanced cancer that had already begun to spread when it was discovered. At 82 and already in poor health, he chose not to seek treatment. He passed peacefully at home a month later. I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to say goodbye. To see him dying and to say goodbye were probably the hardest things I've ever had to do.

outwest
 
#19
My Condolences to your Wife her Family and yourself @chickenman ..
Life is Amazing.. may your Mom in Law pass in peace...All my best~!
 
#20
Angles came this morning and took Helen home......
Sure glad she did not have to suffer much.....
 
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