Kendo’s dating advice for the relationship challenged.

[Cort]

I think confidence is the one thing that drastically helps in a relationship. Too bad Im not that confident in myself.

Practice talking to girls you are not attracted to. No loss when you mess up. Getting girls you dont want to date talking and laughing builds confidence in your abilities to deal with women so there is less pressure (performance anxiety) to approach and talk to a woman you DO want to meet.

 

[Kin]

The problem with dating while you're growing is that it's a massive security risk, sooner or later a woman is going to want to see where and how you live, and you can bet your bottom dollar that she's going to want to know what's behind that locked door. No matter how well you think you know someone, that's a big leap of faith.
As has already been said, our hormones can make us do silly things so tread carefully and stay safe.

 

[Kendo]

Thx folks I really appreciate it. Problem solved.
Good lesson for me in my evolution of self; Stay above the fray.

 

[Kendo]

The problem with dating while you're growing is that it's a massive security risk, sooner or later a woman is going to want to see where and how you live, and you can bet your bottom dollar that she's going to want to know what's behind that locked door. No matter how well you think you know someone, that's a big leap of faith.
As has already been said, our hormones can make us do silly things so tread carefully and stay safe.

I am probably the luckiest man alive in that regards.
26 years ago, young, bold, pushing the limits I did not trust ANY FEMALES.My wifey of 25 years, ( Team Thundercunt ) yes that is her online moniker was a Bonnie to my Clyde from the start of our relationship.
I met her at a club with like 10 of her work girlfriends on girls night out.
We made eye contact when I walked in the door and SPARKED*****
BIG SMILES.

I got a beer and hung out and tried to avoid looking at her too much, she did not look my way.

I got a girl to dance and we danced by their table and they were Checkin out the booty.

Now here is Kendo's patented table full of ladies maneuver. GET THIS DOWN and you will be a GOD to your single friends

" Helllo lovely ladies"
Pause, made eye contact with each one.
"I am gonna guess girls night out, you ladies are having more fun than everybody in here"
Got a little sad look on my face
"YA.....My friends bailed on me at the last damn minute, poohbutts... soooooo I was wondering if I could kick it with you and have some fun too?"
BIG SMILE!
"I know some good jokes and we could talk about people"
BIG SMILE!
2 married cougars with big ass titties and MAD cleavage scooted apart and put a free chair in between em.
Sitting down I looked immediate right and left without staring down into the cleavage and said, " SEE! I am having fun already"
BIG laffs from them all.
A few minutes later a good dance song came on and a few commented that they really liked it.
I got all 10 of out there dancing with me, cougars rubbin me up with Big titties but I only made eye contact with my girl.
I asked the girl who was sitting next to TTC if she minded if I took her seat. They made that oooh girl recognition face and smiled.
We chopped it up for hours and exchanged numbers.
We both knew it was something special and we created a friendship before anything happened sexually.
25 years later.....

 

[Seamaiden]

Not staring down the cleavage is HUGE. We notice that kinda shit immediately, and I guarantee you it's a turn-off. But, you knew that already. :D

 

[Kendo]

How about some more Boz Skaggs?

I told my wonderful wife early on in our relationship that if she got fat I was gone. 40 years later we are still happily married and she is not the trim thing I married.

I see there is a dating service called "farmers only .com". How about a " THC FARMER. COM"?

I have had a few friends toss a great woman aside after a long great marriage for a gold diggin bimbo. Just could not get around their wife's weight gain.
When things went south...so did the Bimbo.

 

[Kendo]

I hope he doesn't mind, but I'm gonna let folks know that my husband and I have had an opportunity to meet @Kendo -- I don't think he means ill, though I am well familiar with how challenging he can be, and again, both he and my husband will acknowledge that. At the end of the day, we're able to walk away friends.:)

I don't mind at all @Seamaiden
Challenging...HMMM I like that.
You , Dave and I are very similar, and so we clash.
We are all vociferous wordsmiths and opinionated, BAMM!!
At the end of the day there is no reason for us to not walk away as friends.
I began the web thing way back in the darpa days. BBS, Apple iie maxed out.
Debate forums were all the rage. The very first thing I noticed was how much further the parties would go in cyber space to drive their point home.
I have developed a very thick skin over these years and take all with a grain of salt. Life is way too short to hold a cyber grudge.

 

[Kendo]

Not staring down the cleavage is HUGE. We notice that kinda shit immediately, and I guarantee you it's a turn-off. But, you knew that already. :D

You saw that Bruce Lee video I posted?
I cannot tell you how many times I wanted to smack my friends in the back of the head like that for staring down the cleavage like a thirsty chihuahua.

 

[Seamaiden]

I don't mind at all @Seamaiden
Challenging...HMMM I like that.
You , Dave and I are very similar, and so we clash.
We are all vociferous wordsmiths and opinionated, BAMM!!
At the end of the day there is no reason for us to not walk away as friends.
I began the web thing way back in the darpa days. BBS, Apple iie maxed out.
Debate forums were all the rage. The very first thing I noticed was how much further the parties would go in cyber space to drive their point home.
I have developed a very thick skin over these years and take all with a grain of salt. Life is way too short to hold a cyber grudge.

For me, the thing is that I *like* being challenged. So, even though there were times when you truly did get under my skin, I knew that in the end it was good for me. Kinda like a colonic. :D

I'm kidding!

So, since you bring up this point, and since I was dragged kicking and screaming into the computer age, I'd like to pose an off-topic question for you regarding your point about how much further parties would go in cyber space to drive home their point. Do you think that this situation may be, or may have played a role in our currently rather extreme condition of political/cultural polarization? Or, do you suspect that it's simply part of the swing of the pendulum?

 

[Capulator]

I am probably the luckiest man alive in that regards.
26 years ago, young, bold, pushing the limits I did not trust ANY FEMALES.My wifey of 25 years, ( Team Thundercunt ) yes that is her online moniker was a Bonnie to my Clyde from the start of our relationship.
I met her at a club with like 10 of her work girlfriends on girls night out.
We made eye contact when I walked in the door and SPARKED*****
BIG SMILES.

I got a beer and hung out and tried to avoid looking at her too much, she did not look my way.

I got a girl to dance and we danced by their table and they were Checkin out the booty.

Now here is Kendo's patented table full of ladies maneuver. GET THIS DOWN and you will be a GOD to your single friends

" Helllo lovely ladies"
Pause, made eye contact with each one.
"I am gonna guess girls night out, you ladies are having more fun than everybody in here"
Got a little sad look on my face
"YA.....My friends bailed on me at the last damn minute, poohbutts... soooooo I was wondering if I could kick it with you and have some fun too?"
BIG SMILE!
"I know some good jokes and we could talk about people"
BIG SMILE!
2 married cougars with big ass titties and MAD cleavage scooted apart and put a free chair in between em.
Sitting down I looked immediate right and left without staring down into the cleavage and said, " SEE! I am having fun already"
BIG laffs from them all.
A few minutes later a good dance song came on and a few commented that they really liked it.
I got all 10 of out there dancing with me, cougars rubbin me up with Big titties but I only made eye contact with my girl.
I asked the girl who was sitting next to TTC if she minded if I took her seat. They made that oooh girl recognition face and smiled.
We chopped it up for hours and exchanged numbers.
We both knew it was something special and we created a friendship before anything happened sexually.
25 years later.....

Can I infer this means you are married to the same woman still?

 

[lino]

Not staring down the cleavage is HUGE. We notice that kinda shit immediately, and I guarantee you it's a turn-off. But, you knew that already. :D

I'm looking at the floor next time I'm at Hooters... I always wondered why it so hard for me to get a date at the strip club...

 

[Kendo]

For me, the thing is that I *like* being challenged. So, even though there were times when you truly did get under my skin, I knew that in the end it was good for me. Kinda like a colonic. :D

I'm kidding!

So, since you bring up this point, and since I was dragged kicking and screaming into the computer age, I'd like to pose an off-topic question for you regarding your point about how much further parties would go in cyber space to drive home their point. Do you think that this situation may be, or may have played a role in our currently rather extreme condition of political/cultural polarization? Or, do you suspect that it's simply part of the swing of the pendulum?

Back then it was a bunch of egg heads posting on University Bulletin Board Services. Polarization of the masses was exclusively the realm of television and radio up until it became easy to access the internets.
Television and Radio have become masters of public opinion but Social media has taken the polarization to heights only conceived of in science fiction novels.

 

[Kendo]

Can I infer this means you are married to the same woman still?

Yes, I just sent her to go make me a sammich.

 

[Mogrow]

I'm looking at the floor next time I'm at Hooters... I always wondered why it so hard for me to get a date at the strip club...

so that's why they start looking at my crotch, cause i'm looking at their boobs?????
bring more money liono, youi'll get a date.
it's easy boys, as romie says,, have a take and don't suck.....

 

[grayarea]

i got to spend some time alone with the girl that helped ripp my outdoor garden few years ago. Was pretty awesome cause she didn't know that i was the person she helped rob, too funny watching her figure out who i was. Nice girl.

 

[soserthc1]

so that's why they start looking at my crotch, cause i'm looking at their boobs?????
bring more money liono, youi'll get a date.
it's easy boys, as romie says,, have a take and don't suck.....

Date will be over when the money is gone thou ....

 

[Kendo]

Date will be over when the money is gone thou ....

Tru dat.

 

[Capulator]

@Kendo that means you met in your late 20's, and have been married ever since (meaning you have not been on any dates since then). AS much as I love this thread it seems that you have not had any recent dating experience. Perhaps your methods are dated?

 

[Medusa]

Maybe u guys are always going for the young .cute. no brainers looking for someone to take care of them ? Think about someone perhaps has other interest. intelligent. funny. caring ,thoughtful ..compassionate in the long run probably would keep your interest and stimulate u long term..( if thats what your looking for a relationship). M

 

[Mogrow]

long term stimulation /// right on /////