Ok, well I didn't realize
@GreenGalaxyFarm was a non native English speaker, so let me point out exactly what annoyed me and why so he's more informed lol.
This:
"which water related root rot fungus are you referring to?"
Sounds argumentative/
condescending because it implies that I claimed to know everything there is to know about microbes OR that I couldn't possibly know what goes on in a microbiome. It's the assumption that I don't know anything about these things that pushed my bitch button. I read up on fusarium and other invasive microbes and fungus last year because as I said, we thought that's what one of my dad's outdoor plants had last year... but as we don't have a lab, we couldn't be 100% sure. I treated it with some beneficial bacteria:
View attachment 1327005...they are supposed to fight fusarium. It slowed it and it only killed/wilted one arm which we amputated anyway. I told him to just get rid of it but he insisted. Rest of plant made it to harvest. It didn't pop into my head that this guy's might be that cause the arm we had was very sickly and yellow, turning brown, so it didn't trigger my stoner brain to remember fusarium lol... I know I mentioned it in my diary last year if you think I'm full of shit, feel free to dig.

The other thing that pushed my bitch button was:
"and noone is arguing, im trying to explain to you whats happening here my intentions were to help out.
edit: removed the word relax, women dont like that word."
Again, implies that I don't know how soil works when I grow in soil. I'm no expert by any means, but I grew my first weed plant in like 2003 and started gardening with my mother in approximately 1988 as a 3 year old... probably mostly tasted the microbes at that point. Oh and the "edit" was clearly passive aggressive... I don't think I need to explain that one. "Oh I was gonna say this but didn't cause it would annoy you but here's what I was gonna say." Gimme a break brah. I don't do passive aggressive. I don't do chauvinism, I don't do condescending... and you hit a home run.

I am here to learn and chill, but presentation of information is important lol. Maybe it's lost in translation, maybe you think I'm a newbie here, maybe you think women are not as skilled as men... I dunno, don't know you. My buttons got pushed and now you know why, water under the bridge. I don't like making enemies unless it's for a real good reason. Now pass the doob.