Thanks.
It doesn't look like it, but we have been defoliating. These girls are growing amazingly fast. We're also trying to be careful not to take too much off at a time, especially as we're trying to get them to flower. We've taken more off the bottom, so it doesn't show in the pictures. I'm also not sure how to trim the smaller colas--basically the small branches.
It's a long thread, I know. The TL;DR is that we thought they were autos, but, apparently they are not. The one on the left is a few weeks older. The picture was also taken just before the plant was watered. It has always been more droopy, though, and seemed to suffer more from our mistakes. The smaller one has always looked like it's happy to be alive.
This is our first tent grow, so we approached it as mostly for learning--and we've learned a lot! We didn't even have a tent when these plants sprouted. Now we have a tent, lights, an inline fan, a dehumidifier and many other accessories. We'll be much better prepared for our next grow, while acknowledging that we still have plenty to learn from this one.