Kendo’s dating advice for the relationship challenged.

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fractal said:
Yea I know it's not about the girl really. . . By the way thanks for calling me out ya jerk (sarcasm) as I try my best but I DARE YOU to go somewhere, say maybe bumfuck Arkansas and stay there 3 years all alone by yourself after a woman burns your life to the ground just for kicks. . . Take away your garden, take away your buds (green sticky ones, and friends)Tell me how you are able to keep a smiley face on 24/7!
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DARE ME? Really DUDE. C'mon Man! You are transferring your anger and blame onto me, but that is expected when one starts to recognize the reality for what it is.
Fractal, you act as though you are the only human to ever be slapped with unfortunate circumstance.
Within the last five years my whole world fell apart. Depressed, angry. bitter in bumfuck Oregon, no friends, no garden, felony conviction, no longer hireable at the 25 year professional gig I have made a shit ton of money at., father died, mother flipped out,etc.
Get mad dude, but direct your anger in the right direction. Be mad at your self for what *YOU* have created. You blame life and hold it accountable when you should take responsibility for your own reactions to what has been dumped on YOU.
The transfer of blame allows you to continue to NOT take responsibility for YOUR actions.
Yes, life has thrown you a rotten fish, do not wantonly continue to eat it.
 
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NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

AWESOME AWESOME!!!!!!!
Really needed to see that.. thank you so much. This advice you shared is totally what it's all about.

ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.
Now your making my cry...

9) BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier..
Always the clown..she shake's her head in wonderment wondering where do you come up with that?????

Real Real good advice.
I see things I do and things I need to work on thanks so much made my day off to hug and kiss.....
 
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Kendo said:
DARE ME? Really DUDE. C'mon Man! You are transferring your anger and blame onto me, but that is expected when one starts to recognize the reality for what it is.
Fractal, you act as though you are the only human to ever be slapped with unfortunate circumstance.
Within the last five years my whole world fell apart. Depressed, angry. bitter in bumfuck Oregon, no friends, no garden, felony conviction, no longer hireable at the 25 year professional gig I have made a shit ton of money at., father died, mother flipped out,etc.
Get mad dude, but direct your anger in the right direction. Be mad at your self for what *YOU* have created. You blame life and hold it accountable when you should take responsibility for your own reactions to what has been dumped on YOU.
The transfer of blame allows you to continue to NOT take responsibility for YOUR actions.
Yes, life has thrown you a rotten fish, do not wantonly continue to eat it.
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Put down the crack, Kendo. . . maybe you missed the (sarcasm)
 
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soserthc1 said:
Lesson time or shall i say comedy time its getting way to girly around here , were on a cannabis forum ......lol...

a sparkle in your eye :rolleyes:
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depends on who's reading it huh girls >. LOL bought time us girls had fun ...there's alot of testoserone in these threads and can't help but get excited...
 
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JON DIFOOL said:
ive been thinking about getting maried just so i can be part of the uppercruster soecitey b4 i die.
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Mid 40's never married no kids, I Just like my freedom too much to get married...No regrets for not starting a family. Friends with benefits is the way roll now a days, got too much going on and too loose over a girl right now...
 
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@Kendo - how about some pointers on where I should be looking for love.. Specifically if I actually have to leave the house to meet people or if an endless stream of hookers will eventually lead to love.
 
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PButter said:
@Kendo - how about some pointers on where I should be looking for love.. Specifically if I actually have to leave the house to meet people or if an endless stream of hookers will eventually lead to love.
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Falling for hookers is tuff. There's that loss of income when sex becomes exclusive.

Meeting ladies is actually pretty easy.
requires some groundwork though. First thing is check the finger for wedding/engagement/promise ring.
Next use the surroundings to facilitate a face to face. In the grocery store, BIG SMILE AND " Hi, I don't mean to intrude but I am a single guy trying to, (eat healthy, try new foods) have you ever used this product. Video store, hardware store, Walmart. you can adapt this easily.
The beauty of this is you can feel out the women," not feel up" without the shootdown.
 
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, speaking of hookers...

in the red light district in amsterdam i was always surprised how many of the girls were married.
"husband" hey honey, how was your day.
"wife" I'm so tired, im beat from work....."
 
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+1 meet chicks everywhere you go, that way you have something in common. It can be as simple as holding a door for her at the post office with a smile, the grocery store, library, taking your dog to the park.... Where ever you go there are good and bad girls to be had, you just need to talk to them.

If looking for a fling picking up girls at the bar is fine, but if you would like a relationship the pub is a less than ideal spot. Also avoid dating coworkers/clients/vendors or anyone else associated with your source of income. It will bite you in the ass 95% of the time.
 
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I'm gonna go ahead and tell a story about how my lady and i met that somewhat goes against a few rules in this thread. Its pretty funny too so bare with me.
so, after finishing work ( physical labor construction job) i took a "parking lot shower" (bottle of water over the head and upper body, deodorant, cologne, clean white hanes tshirt) but stiil had dirty jeans & boots. I decided to go to a local bar/ pool hall for a few beers, by myself, and to watch some sports on tv. No plans of looking for females. I go use the restroom, sit down, start drinking a few and watching tv. After 30 mins girl #1 walks up and sits down at my table and proceeds to hit on me. We talk a bit & she returns to her friends and says she'll be back. after i few more beers i go use the restroom again. On the way back, girl #2 ( my now current girlfriend of almost 10 years) steps dead in my and says hey ive seen you walk by a couple times, you wanna play a few games of pool. She, btw, is wearing tight jeans/ nice white shirt with sleaves rolled up/ and hair down to her ass, lol. I accept and we commence playing pool at a table her and her friend are playing at with two dudes (it was the dudes table). Soon girl #1 walks up with a cat i went to high school with (who last time i saw him my bro @tHeOnEnAZ was beating his ass in a parking lot) like id be impressed she knew someone i did. I was in the middle of a game with girl #2and girl #1 puts her hand on my cue (poolstick) and says "let me take your shot. I hang on to my cue and politely decline. This brings a big frown to girl #1's face and a huge smile and laugh to girl #2's. Eventually #1 walks away and #2 and i continue to play. After a while (im dead serious here) one of the dudes whos table we were at walks up & starts singin to me, no shit, middle of a pool hall tried to seranade me. Wtf. I look him dead in the eye and say dude, dont fucking sing to me, he walked away hurt and later he and his boy left me, girl #2, and her friend to play on their table. Moral of the story is, sometimes shit just happens. i hadn't washed my ass #1, got one girl (still together, in less than 2 months will be 10 years), couldve had another, and got hit on by a dude, all at a bar, when i wasn't even lookin. Go figure. Lol
Motiv
 
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