so the clips im using , im using them on the wrong part the leaves?
Yes. You put them on branches to control hight and bush the plant out more. Putting them on leaves might help in rare situations but isn’t normally how you do it.
so is the growth between the leaf and the stem is the new stem? is that what im training?
Hmm. Not all growth there is new branches. Some is leaf and bud sites as well as branches.
You want to take any branch that has new growth and clip it to go in a direction where it’s away from the centre and preferably into a empty spot.
The picture is what im showing the new branches those are what im training?
Yes. As an example the branch with two leaves and new growth on the end would be clipped so as not to grow straight up.
if you look there are leaves pointing down and new growth pointing up. The new growth is what im aiming for?
You could do before the first two leaves or behind. Depends on where you want it to go and if you have room to clip. If you don’t mind damaging the two leaves you can do it there.
You’re trying to steer the branch either where you want it to grow or away from where you don’t want it to go.
Just be careful and don’t rush. You will bend and/or break some as you learn. Either tape them back together or cut them off. Then you can make a clone.

I’ll check back later when you post.