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I know I'm a bit late here and definitely ill equipped for emotional stuff, but I want to pop in and wish you and your daughter well!
It's good to see you stand behind her and be there to help; I imagine that can be a hard position to be in and I feel for you there. You have the right perspective in knowing that it's ultimately up to her to change and that is also good.
My mother / step father were determined to force a change on me with my "addiction" to marijuana. Suffice it to say I've not spoken to them in 18 years now. (though I intend to meet with my mom at some point to let her know I don't hold things against her and I know she was doing what she thought best).
Perception / perspective = reality. The largest thing is for her to, be able to, change her perspective to a reality that does not have drugs at the top of the list.
Go to a party with a bunch of people and everyone of them will walk out with a different perspective on what the party was like (reality) and they are all correct. Take everyone in a state, country or the world; we all have different perspectives on reality and, to each of us; that perspective / reality is correct. Now there are many cases where multiple perspectives (realities) will have things in common and these could be, in general, agreed upon as a "truth"; however there are many things in life that belong to our own perspective / reality and they are our "choice" for how we absorb them. I.E. back to the first party analogy, if everyone has a good time there, but one person doesn't; that was, in part, his /her own "choice" in perceiving that reality.
With your daughter things are similar too, as humans we do not act irrationally or illogically to our own perspective on reality. The reality for her atm, is that these drugs are the most important and that without these; life would not be enjoyable or easy to deal with. This however, is in part, her choosing; but is totally valid from her perspective. Change will come when she can perceive a higher value in other things and be reinforced with the knowledge that she CAN deal with life and have enjoyment without drugs.
Good wishes being sent your way!
I know I'm a bit late here and definitely ill equipped for emotional stuff, but I want to pop in and wish you and your daughter well!
It's good to see you stand behind her and be there to help; I imagine that can be a hard position to be in and I feel for you there. You have the right perspective in knowing that it's ultimately up to her to change and that is also good.
My mother / step father were determined to force a change on me with my "addiction" to marijuana. Suffice it to say I've not spoken to them in 18 years now. (though I intend to meet with my mom at some point to let her know I don't hold things against her and I know she was doing what she thought best).
Perception / perspective = reality. The largest thing is for her to, be able to, change her perspective to a reality that does not have drugs at the top of the list.
Go to a party with a bunch of people and everyone of them will walk out with a different perspective on what the party was like (reality) and they are all correct. Take everyone in a state, country or the world; we all have different perspectives on reality and, to each of us; that perspective / reality is correct. Now there are many cases where multiple perspectives (realities) will have things in common and these could be, in general, agreed upon as a "truth"; however there are many things in life that belong to our own perspective / reality and they are our "choice" for how we absorb them. I.E. back to the first party analogy, if everyone has a good time there, but one person doesn't; that was, in part, his /her own "choice" in perceiving that reality.
With your daughter things are similar too, as humans we do not act irrationally or illogically to our own perspective on reality. The reality for her atm, is that these drugs are the most important and that without these; life would not be enjoyable or easy to deal with. This however, is in part, her choosing; but is totally valid from her perspective. Change will come when she can perceive a higher value in other things and be reinforced with the knowledge that she CAN deal with life and have enjoyment without drugs.
Good wishes being sent your way!